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One mom shares what happened when she gave birth and what she might have done differently.
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Shino: He was basically 2 weeks late, and the doctor allowed that because he knew I felt very strongly about wanting to have this baby naturally. However, it came to the point where I needed to have the baby. He was healthy, everything’s fine, so they checked me into the hospital.
They started me on Pitocin that morning and I continued on Pitocin for pretty much the entire day with no effect. Probably about midafternoon, they increased my Pitocin and then I started to really feel the contractions.
I started to dilate, the baby started to move, and I could feel that it was getting closer to the time. Unfortunately, I was in labor for 22 hours. I had 3 and a half hours of very, very hard pushing.
He was really big, and we didn’t know how big at the time, but what ended up happening was I tore all the way through and my son was 9 pounds, 8 ounces, when he was born. So basically what happened was he was just too big for my pelvic area.
In retrospect, I felt like it would’ve been a good idea had I had a neutral third party there like a doula, somebody to sort of represent me in a more calm [laughs] light where they could say, “Hey, doctor, she’s not progressing. She’s not dilating any further. The baby’s just sitting in there. Nothing’s happening. Let’s consider a c-section.” I would’ve been the perfect candidate for a c-section.
What helped me during that process, honestly, it was my maternal drive that helped me. I don’t think that any amount of food or pain medication could’ve really sort of helped alleviate the pain I was feeling or just sort of the overwhelming sense of “I can’t let my son down. I have to get to him because he’s crying. He needs his mother. I need to feed him.”
If somebody had said, like, “Hey, I think time out. This is not progressing the way we want it to.” It was obvious that my son was way too big, that it wouldn’t had resulted in such a traumatic delivery and post-delivery case for me, but that’s that. I think that I would totally do it again. It was totally worth it, totally worth it.